~Domestic Violence Never Paints a Pretty Picture~



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Today Evelynn would have been 25 years old even though her life was cut short, her memory will not wither or fade. Happy Birthday! RIP Evelynn! One day we will all be back together!

Evelynn Grace Smith

July 13, 1984 – February 21, 2005
One of my dearest friends lost her lovely 20 year old daughter four years ago to a young man 19 years old who didn’t know how to cope with his emotions. Being that he was overly jealous, compulsive, and controlling, were there warning signs? Yes, many signs but we never want to think someone who loves us would really hurt us. Yet it happens everyday. Evelynn was a young lady with so much life and energy. She had big dreams of starting college. She was very health conscious and she loved to run. At one point in their relationship she drew up a contract and had him sign it just so she would be allowed to run, alone with other provisions. He wanted to keep her isolated and he didn’t want her to be around any of her friends. Her life ended tragically with knife wounds to her throat and cuts on the inside of her arms. But comfort has been given to those who loved Evelynn knowing she is in the hands of the Lord. Her life ended here but we know her life isn’t over. It is just the beginning of a greater life. See Evelynn died at a time when she had grown closer to the Lord than ever before. She was so excited about her relationship with the Lord and she desired to be with him, encouraging her mother to go to church with her which is exactly what they did. Evelynn was a smart young lady and she kept a journal, diary and several day planners. Inside her journal her mother learned much about what was going on in this relationship. This young man tried to make it look like they were going to commit suicide together because he put wounds on himself and told the detectives he was unsuccessful. However, there was much evidence to show otherwise. Her journal that she had been keeping for several years revealed how she had stayed in a shelter to get away from his abuse. She had pictures he had drawn that were quite scary. She met the young man in North Carolina but ended up leaving him and moving back to Washington. They continued talking on the phone and he convinced her things would be different. So she was planning to take him back. He caught a bus to Washington and she picked him up at the bus station. Then she took him to get a room at a motel. He was wearing a rosary around his neck at the time...After arriving at the motel a few hours later he took her life. He killed her in the bath tub and placed her nude body on the bed with her arms crossed. He laid a Spanish language Bible on top of her and then covered her with a blanket…Was this premeditated? I would say so… This young man was very insecure and this is a tragedy but as Christians we must forgive and this young man needs prayer along everyone else who was hurt in this situation. He took Eveylnn’s life but he hurt so many more, not only Evelynn’s family and friends but his own family…The Bible teaches we must forgive and love our enemies. Pray for them… Evelynn has an awesome mom. She is a wonderful person and a great friend. It took great courage for her to go and talk to the young man who took her daughter. When she spoke to him she tried to comfort him so she could learn what happened. My friend is very caring and forgiving. I met Kathy in a most unusual way. I placed an add in the newspaper for a vegetarian nanny and she answered it not because she was interested in the job but because she wanted to meet me. After we met we became the best of friends. That was 20 years ago. Evelynn and my daughter played together and they celebrated their birthday’s together (because their birthdays were two weeks apart). Evelynn was one year older than Dori but they got along really well… I remember every time Evelynn came over she never wanted to leave. She would always want to stay and keep playing….Kathy I love you, we will see Evelynn again and she lives in our hearts…..Love, Francine







♥♥♥ Finding Comfort After Losing a Loved One In Christ! The Lord tells us our life here on Earth is just a vapor. But the Life that follows this life is eternal, everlasting!!!

James 4:14 You are just a vapor that appears for a little while and then vanishes away.

I understand the pain of losing a loved one. It is so hard when you know you will not be able to see them and hug them but as Children of God we know this is not the end. We have the Lord’s word that gives us hope that we will be with our loved ones again..

1 Corinthians 15:16-19 For if the dead are not raised, not even Christ has been raised; and if Christ has not been raised, your faith is worthless; you are still in your sins. Then those also who have fallen asleep in Christ have perished. If we have hoped in Christ in this life only, we are of all men most to be pitied.

1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 But we do not want you to be uninformed, brethren, about those who are asleep, so that you will not grieve as do the rest who have no hope. For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so God will bring with Him those who have fallen asleep in Jesus. For this we say to you by the word of the Lord, that we who are alive and remain until the coming of the Lord, will not precede those who have fallen asleep.
For the Lord Himself will descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first. Then we who are alive and remain will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air, and so we shall always be with the Lord. Therefore comfort one another with these words.♥♥♥