opine please: if one is to follow christ is it necessary to pursue change? is it ok (or a realistic option) to attempt to simply survive celibate?

and to answer to the question of why wouldnt u, the answer would be because of either the pain involved and/or because the end result doesn’t appear all that desirable (example a gay guy who not only has no interest in but has a dislike for anything/anyone feminine and would never want a relationship with a girl).

Good question! And one that’s pretty common among those with this struggle, I’d bet.

I talked about a similar question on my blog not too long ago.

In short, though, I think it’s important for those of us who are set free in Christ not to live according to our wounds when we don’t have to--not to accept defeat where Christ may be leading us onward to victory!

That’s not to say that every Christian should pursue marriage--heterosexuality is not holiness. But, in your pursuit of holiness you may discover that heterosexuality becomes more appealing. After all, God created sex and marriage to reflect Him in a unique way.

There are plenty of wrong reasons to pursue marriage--but there are plenty of wrong reasons to avoid it, too. If you find yourself experiencing feelings of fear, resentment, disgust, etc. about the opposite sex, I would encourage you to challenge and seek healing in those areas. Again, not for the sake of getting married someday--just for the sake of overcoming oppressive false beliefs and relationship-inhibiting brokenness.